Not Gifted at

We just finished Vacation Bible School Week 1 at our church here in the Philippines. Celia, my wife, is the primary organizer, working with the WMU (Women’s

VBS in Baguio City, Philippines

VBS in Baguio City, Philippines

Missionary Union) and Youth in holding VBS. We did one in a community on the other side of the mountain, and next week we will do one at our church. Celia is supervising CPE (Clinical Pastoral Education) so she is pretty busy during the VBS hours. I finished teaching a missions class a few days ago, and my next class is a couple of weeks away… so I am overseeing the VBS “in the field.”

SO WHAT????   I am not gifted at Children’s Ministry. I am not against children. I used to be a child (although I was never a teenager). But I clearly have no special gifting to do children’s ministry. I find it amazing how easily some people embrace the role of working, communicating, and ministering with children.

So maybe I should have simply said “I am sorry, I am not available to help with VBS. I am not gifted in that area.” It’s an option.

Plan A.  A church or ministry team is looking for volunteers. They look for the people with the most time on their hands. With a bit of arm twisting, some of the people agree to help. This is commonly a path to failure. Many people with time on their hands, have such time because they are not found to be reliable. Unreliable people often have time on their hand.

Plan B. A church or ministry team is looking for volunteers. They have heard the saying that if you have something that really needs to get done, ask a busy person. This is counterintuitive, but is built on the logic that busy people are reliable and are not quick to say NO. Generally, I haven’t found this method so hot either. For on thing, churches have used this method for years… and church hallways are littered with the figurative corpses of members and former members who have burned out due to overwork. For another thing, busy people still have a limited resource— time. No matter how much one plays with time management, eventually, limits are hit. I know many people who are so busy that they simply cannot juggle more responsibility. This is pretty common in the Philippines where the percentage of highly competent, self-driven, people is a bit low. So these people tend to wear a lot of (ministerial) hats.

Plan C. Another method is not to focus on availability or capability, but rather on susceptibility. Susceptibility to shame or guilt that is. While being shameless or sociopathic (resistant to guilt) is not a great quality trait for ministry, one cannot assume that a higher level of susceptibility to guilt or shame does not necessarily correlate to competence (but does often correlate to burnout).

Plan D.  More recent has been the focus on spiritual gifts. Thus, one should be asked to serve in those areas one is gifted. I think there is good in this… but some problems as well. First, there is some fairly poor theology behind spiritual gifts, I believe. Many churches separate strongly between spiritual gifts, talents, skills, and experiences. There seems to almost be the idea that spiritual gifts are from God and are to be used for ministry, while the others (talents, skills, and experiences) are not from God and don’t have much of a place in proper ministry. This makes no sense… and should be tossed out immediately. When evaluating a person for ministry, the whole person should be viewed as from God and the output of God’s working. Second, spiritual gifts are often limited to 13, or 22, or 27 or some other number… as if God limits his gifting (a ridiculous concept). One should see the inconsistency in the lists of gifts in the Bible as clear that the number and types of gifts are not well-defined. And that is good since there are a lot more tasks in ministry than there are gifts as listed in the Bible. Third, while a church may be a “body” of many members. No church this side of heaven is perfect… there will always be ways in which gifts and roles don’t line up perfectly. Fourth, the wisdom that for a new hire you “fake it until you make it” is true. You have to sometimes give people a chance to learn, grow, and prove who they are.

I would say that there is no set rule. I would say that for long-term ministry roles, it is good to focus on their gifting (recognizing talents, skills, experiences, and such as also part of God’s gifting) and passion. Doing long-term what is outside of one’s gifting or passion will bear little fruit and a lot of stress. But for short-term projects (or rotated roles) passion and willingness to serve should be strongly considered.

I spent a few months being a youth leader. Although the real work wasn’t that hard I suppose, it was hugely stressful for me because it is far outside my skill set and a bit outside my passion. But for short-term or occasional ministry, willing to do one’s best for the church and for God is important. Long-term? I am so glad that I no longer have that role.

Challenges to Church-Initiated Community Development in the Philippines

<div style=”margin-bottom:5px”> <strong> <a href=”http://www.slideshare.net/bmunson3/challenges-in-doing-churchinitiated-christian-development-in-the-philippines&#8221; title=”Challenges in Doing Church-Initiated Christian Development in the Philippines ” target=”_blank”>Challenges in Doing Church-Initiated Christian Development in the Philippines </a> </strong> from <strong><a href=”http://www.slideshare.net/bmunson3&#8243; target=”_blank”>Bob Munson</a></strong> </div>

 

I was originally thinking about doing my dissertation on this topic. Then I realized that there were so few churches in the Philippines that does real community development (most focusing on “relief” type ministry, if they are involved in social ministry at all). So I switched to medical missions. However, I did write this little paper before making the switch.

Making Good Stories that Teach.

I have talked a bit before about stories that have a mythic or parabolic function. I feel that it is more useful to define myth or parable in terms of their function within a specific culture rather than their structure. If a story is resonant with a specific culture and challenges beliefs or assumptions in that culture, it has a parabolic function. If it is resonant with a specific culture but supports or reinforces the culture’s beliefs or assumptions, it has a mythic function.

Charles Dickens (1812-1870)

Charles Dickens (1812-1870) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Of course, it is entirely possible that a story may be relevant (valuable or important) in a culture rather than resonant (connecting with the imaginations of people in a culture in a uniquely powerful way). One can suggest, then, two other categories. If a story is challenging to a culture and is relevant, it might be described as revelatory in function. And if a story relevant but not really challenging to the culture, it could be said to have an illustrative function. These are how I would use the terms.

In the end all of these stories can be used to teach… to instruct. But how does one make a story that can be used in a missional or ministerial environment that has value. This is not always easy and many stories that one might think should be instructional are not.

In the 1800s (not just then of course) there were a considerable number of stories that were written to be instructional, particularly in the area of morals. In part this was because of Readers that were published for school children. The McGuffey Reader was well known, but there were others. I have a Sanders Union 6th Reader published in 1860s. It has many moral stories in it. They have value to a point, but it is not that surprising that many of the shorter stories that came out of the 1800s that are remembered today had a minimal amount of instructional value. Works by Lewis Carroll or Edgar Allan Poe for example (and perhaps one might include work by Rudyard Kipling) focused on action, horror, or adventure, but not so much on instruction.

Why is that? Is it because we live in a “depraved time” where we reject moral instruction. Perhaps, yet many works with a moral/ethical message are accepted and resonate. Charles Dickens’ works from the 1800s are appreciated today despite a strong social and moral message. People pay (in fact many have paid multiple times) to read or watch the origin story of Spiderman… a story with a strong ethical message.

Perhaps it is best said that if a moral story fails, it may not be that the moral is rejected… but that the story is rejected. So what can be done to help ensure that the story is a strong vehicle to support and enhance moral instruction? I am not a student of storytelling but here are some musings.

Story graph

  1. Consider starting from a familiar story structure and then twist it. For example, one story structure is the coming of age story. A child grows up and must level the security of home and hearth to prove themselves in the world. After considerable struggles and challenges, the child succeeds and returns to a heroes welcome. Mulan is a twist where the child on the heroes journey is female. A similar story structure takes a different direction. The child leaves in rebellion and suffers the difficulties of the real world and returns sadder but wiser. The Prodigal Son is a classic form of this story while Pinocchio is the story form with a twist.
  2. Seek to draw the listener into the story. This can be done by making the characters, the plot, or the context the listener can connect with. The Spiderman origin story follows a structure like the structure of the Prodigal Son. It also has a main character (High School to College, young man, nerdy, and picked on) that is similar to the reader at the time it was published in comic book form.The story of Joseph, especially the part when his brothers come to Egypt to ask for help, really invites the listener to consider what he or she would (or should) do in response to betrayal. The story of Pandora also invites personal involvement. Of course, the storyteller must help the listener get into the story. If the storyteller says, “Pandora was given a beautiful box and told not to open it. Later that day she opened it and…,” the listener hasn’t been given the opportunity to enter the role.
  3. Utilize common roles and contexts. One can drift considerably away from reality as long as there are familiar aspects that one can relate it to. Let me give a silly example of this… an old joke that I (oddly) have always liked.

    A duck walked into a tavern and sat up at the bar. The bartender aske what the duck wanted. The duck said, “Got any grapes?”

    “No. sorry.” replied the bartender. The duck departed.

    The next day, the duck returned, sat at the bar and when asked said, “Got any grapes?”

    “No. This is a tavern. Why don’t you go to the market!” And the duck departed.

    This happened several days, and you can imagine the bartender getting more and more angry at this stupid duck. Finally, after a week of this happening, the frustrated bartender shouted,”You ask me for grapes again and I will nail your bill to the bar here!” The duck departed. Several days the duck stayed away but a week later the duck returned and sat up on the barstool. The bartender, quite annoyed, said suspiciously, “What do you want?”

    “Got any nails?” Taken aback, the bartender said, “Well, uh, no. I don’t have any nails.”

    Responded the duck, “Got any grapes?”

This odd story has several elements that make it unbelievable. A duck as a main character. A duck that talks. A duck that wants grapes. A duck that wants grapes at a bar. A bartender that doesn’t seem to be all that surprised to be talking to a serving a duck. Yet the scenario of someone going into a tavern and making a request, even a strange request, to a bartender is quite familiar. The response of the bartender (trying to be courteous and gradually drifting to anger and frustration) seems pretty familiar. The familiar elements provide the structure on which to the unfamiliar (even ridiculous) elements can be attached to. In fact the juxtaposition of the normal and the absurd adds to the story.

  1. Provide shock in context. One way is to have Divine Truth be discovered in the mundane or even profane. In the story of Jonah, the prophet of God was shamed by the godly piety demonstrated by the pagan sailors, and the residents of a pagan city. The shocking contrast forces the hearer to recognize that, despite our tendency towards bigotry, God is Universal God and loves all of His creation.Sometimes the setting itself forces one to face the importance of the message. Here in the Philippines, a very memorable advertisement was placed on TV. It appeared to be taking place in a slum or perhaps even a squatter’s community in Manila. There was a large middle-age Caucasion man walking through these streets (a strange sight. What does he want). He calls over a young boy and takes his hand and starts walking with him (a shameful shameful thing. The Philippines is a center for sex trade, including for foreign pedophiles). Through narrow dark passages in the community they walk (why doesn’t anyone do anything to stop this. Doesn’t anyone care about this child?) Finally they come to a door and go in. It is a classroom full of young children. He is part of a program that teaches children from destitute families. The message… the need to care for these children and save them from a cycle of poverty and abuse… is made more clear by the initial misinterpretation of the plot.
  2. Hit the emotions strongly. Of course, one doesn’t want it to devolve into a morality play. But while facts provide information, emotions provide meaning. “The Little Match Girl” by Hans Christian Anderson provides a powerful emotional punch without falling into the trap of gratuitous melodrama. The Parable of the Ewe Lamb (as told by the Prophet Nathan) uses emotion to draw the listener in, and then uses a switch at the end to act as an end-around on the defenses of the hearer.
  3. Humor helps. Of course, humor for its own sake doesn’t do much. But humor works at the emotional level and helps make the story memorable and interesting. Of course, humor here should be thought of in broad terms. Humor includes running jokes, shock, irony, hyperbole, understatement and more. Dante’s Inferno could easily have devolved into melodrama and morality play. However, Dante masterfully incorporated various elements of humor into the story.
  4. Clarify the message. Most stories have ambiguity. Is the Good Samaritan a story about identifying and loving one’s neighbor, or a warning not to walk on dangerous roads? The message needs to be made clear. Consider the story of the duck and the bar. There is no underlying message. But suppose there was… what would it be? Be like the duck and don’t give up? Don’t talk to ducks? Don’t look for grapes at at tavern?

I would welcome other guidance and hints for good stories that teach.

Better Bad Choices

I have a couple of acquaintances (truthfully, not close to me). One of them is an Evangelical Christian who is dabbling in a neo-pagan religion. The other, also an Evangelical Christian, is already decided to join a classic doomsday-type authoritarian cult.

Youth Culture - Punk 1980s-1990s

Youth Culture – Punk 1980s-1990s (Photo credit: brizzle born and bred)

Christian Missions is, of course, more focused on bringing those outside of the fold to choose to follow Christ. But it is simply reality that there is a backdoor in the church. This is not a theological discussion about eternal security (it’s not really THAT type of blog). From a human perspective… people change religions. It happens.

As Christians, we (hopefully) seek to ensure that those who follow Christ stay faithful in that. The book of Hebrews, for example, is written to Jewish Christians, encouraging them to stay faithful to the path they chose, and not return to their old lives.

Still, it makes me wonder. Are we responsible as a church not only to:

  • Bring people into the church                                                    and
  • Nurture/disciple those in the church                                   and
  • Encourage those in the church to stay in the church

BUT, recognizing that we simply do not have control over people’s decisions, are we responsible to ensure that those who leave the church do not go in a direction that is self-destructive. 

In the examples at the beginning, both cases ARE problems… but the authoritarian cult is more self-destructive than the neo-pagan group. Additionally the neo-pagan group is easier to leave than the authoritarian cult.

Is the church responsible to help those in church to not only make good choices, but even to make better bad choices?

The Joy of Being Understood

I have been teaching a two-week course on Missionary Member Care. That is a broad topic and can focus on logistics, or life cycle, or

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English: * This image is a png copy of Image:Missionary_ship_Duff.jpg with reduced size and recoloured (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

fund-raising, or whatever. However, in part since I am an administrator of a Counseling Center, I have focused on the psycho-emotio-spiritual aspects or struggles in missions.

One assignment I gave was to ask the students to interview a missionary. The questions are the one’s Dr. Dan Russell used when I took his class in Missions years ago.

INTERVIEW SHEET

                                                   Student:                                                                                                 Missionary:

                                                   Place:                                                                                                     Date/Time:

Description of the Missionary:

How were you called to missions?

How do you have devotions? Include habits about both bible reading and prayer!

What problems do you face as a spouse on the mission field? (Optional)

How do you relate to your family back home?

What medical problems have you had in the country?

Do you exercise or have hobbies?

What are some security issues you have faced?

Tell me about your best local friend.

Why did you decide to go to the city or people you are serving now?

How did you raise support?

How do you keep in contact with your home or sending church?

How do you communicate prayer requests and other needs to supporters?

What mentoring have you received and given as a missionary?

Why did you choose your organization?

What is the size and ethnic background of your team?

How have you experienced spiritual warfare?

Can you share about a time when you wanted to give up?

What type of work have you done? and What is your current ministry?

How do the churches at home look at missionary work outside of the country?

These are good questions, and they are all good to ask missionary friends when you get a chance. But to get real answers there needs to be a foundation of TRUST between you and them. Missionaries are often ready to give the “Praise God for His Victory!” answers. But missions is full of at least as many struggles and hurts as there are joys and victories. Sometimes the joys and meaning flow from the struggles and hurts as much as anything.

Most of those interviewed were from NSC (new sending countries) and are serving in what is sometimes called the 10/40 window. Many serve with little financial support. Some/most are bivocational. If the rope is a symbol of missionary member care and support, for many of them, their rope is more like a shoe string. It is inspiring to read in their interviews NOT the victories, NOT the mountain top experiences, but the quiet commitment and perseverance. I feel a certain connection with them and thank God that they felt the confidence to share their experiences with my students. In reading their stories and trying to understand what they are going through, I feel understood as well. It sounds strange, but true. In some small (and not so small) ways, there is resonance between my experiences and theirs. As I have said before (as I was told by another) one of the greatest gifts you can give a person is to give them your full attention for a few minutes and TRY your best to truly understand what they are going through.

I almost wonder if I would like to teach a class in which the only tasks would be:

                      1.  Interview 10 or 20 (or so) NSC missionaries here in Southeast Asia

                      2.  Analyze the responses for common problems and concerns (ethnographic or GTA perhaps)

                      3.  Develop a prayer and support network for the missionaries.

Maybe that is not a good class project. Maybe it is a better Counseling Center project, or church project.

If you decide to ask a missionary the questions listed above: ensure that there is a trust between the two of you, encourage honest answers (not “churchy” answers), try your best to understand what they are really going through, and LISTEN.

Religious Exoticism and Human Need

I have noticed, as I am sure almost everyone else has noticed at times, that there are people who will suddenly latch onto some odd religious group. When I say “odd” I mean one that is greatly divergent from the common faith system in a region.

Exorcising Exoticism

Exorcising Exoticism (Photo credit: Augapfel)

Sometimes, I think this is religious exoticism. That is, when one sees a religious (or political, or cultural, or ideological) group from a distance, we see inadequately the nature of the group or its beliefs. Most people tend to react somewhat xenophobically… filling gaps in our knowledge with negative opinions and values. However, some respond oppositely… presuming that the areas of ignorance are filled with positive qualities… exoticism.

But why would some react that way. One might assume sociologically that it is in the best interest of a member of a group to assume that one’s group is superior to other groups. Why does this not necessarily happen?

I DON’T KNOW. And I am not necessarily well-researched in this area… but I would suggest that for some this meets certain human needs.

There are many human needs and different ways of looking at human needs.  pleasure and mastery over one’s environment appear to be important in human development. Abraham Maslow, of course, has his hierarchy of needs. Henry Murray has his system of psychogenic needs. I guess I would like to throw out a few human needs that are relevant to the drive to change faith systems (especially to small esoteric groups). This is thinking out loud (if typing can be described as out loud) so definitely open to additions and subtractions (and multiplications and divisions I suppose) to the list.

1.  Belongingness. We are social beings and feel the need to be part of a group… to recognize a clear US that contrasts a clear THEM. When a particular religious system (whether organized, disorganized, political or ideological) dominates a culture, belongness is often reduced. Sure one belongs… but most everyone in the culture belongs regardless of how faithfully they embrace the faith. A sense of belonging is often stronger when there is a smaller group that contrasts the broader society and has strong cohesion due to the religious system they are in. (I was raised in a Fundamental, Separatist church. One does sense belonging to something that goes beyond living in a certain region or culture.)

2.  Specialness. You have probably heard the joke… “You are absolutely unique and special… just like everyone else.” We want to belong to a group, but we never want to be completely defined by that group… to be lost in the crowd. We want to individuate. Again, smaller groups make this easier. It is easier to have a sense of self in a group of 20 people rather than lost in a crowd of 200,000 people. The drive to belong and yet be special are in tension with each other… yet both can push individuals towards smaller (“exotic”) religious groups that are willing to treat them as being special and belonging to something special.

3.  Purpose. People want to live in a world where the decisions they make and the actions they do have impact in the world, and that impact matters. There is an “OUGHT” that is important. Often the dominant religious system in a culture loses a clear purpose except to promote social norms, maintaining the (often mediocre) status quo.

4.  Transcendance. While, in many ways, we live in an amazing world in an amazing amazing universe, we have the desire for something more. The world around us seems “horizontal” and we have a need for something “vertical.” The dominant faith in a community starts to slide into feeling like the rest of the world around us– roads, can openers, junk mail, and church. It becomes recategorized as the mundane. We don’t know exactly what it feels like to be in some way part of the divine… but we know it is not where we are at right now… so maybe we need to look elsewhere.

Let’s just take these needs for the moment. Can the church (the orthodox, boring, been around a long time church) compete with the exotic– whether be a “world religion,” a cultic group, or a secular ideology?

I believe the church as described in the epistles gives us a start.

1.  Belongingness was no problem in the early church. Modest ostracism to open persecution led to the church being a tight knit group of believers. Metaphors promote the idea of belongingness even more. We are “baptized of one spirit” joined together as the “body” and “bride of Christ,” and a “peculiar people.” There never seemed to be the thought that the church should be equated to or comfortable with the broader culture, but should always have a counter-cultural role.

2. Specialness. Members of the church are described as “children of God” and a “royal priesthood” among other things. However, the church is supposed to exist in a structure following the body metaphor. Each is supposed to have unique roles… some exciting, some boring… but each important. The church is not only supposed to recognize each person as special, but empower them to discover and utilize their speicalness.

3.  Purpose. The church is to be salt and light in this world, acting counter-culturally. That counter-cultural activity is not simply contrarian, but supporting the good while challenging the bad. The work of the church in this should never be done. If the church start feeling comfortable in the culture around it, it is likely that it has lost to some extent its diving purpose. On an individual basis, the unique roles within the body of Christ can give a sense of purpose as long as there is a clear evidence of cause and effect as to how their actions connect to the greater purpose of the church. (“Learned helplessness” develops when a person does not see a clear relationship between actions and results. There are far too many people in church who have learned to be and act helpless.)

4.  Transcendance. When the church rebels against drifting toward thermal death (sorry, pulling a thermodynamic term here) in the surround culture, it will seem less mundane. When the church (corporately and individually) embrace a divine purpose it will seem more divine (as it should). When these are achieved, the transcendant metaphors (bride of Christ, children of God, royal priesthood) start to make more sense to the members of the church.

Small groups within a church can help with specialness… especially accountability groups, growth groups, and ministry teams. Ministry teams, particularly, can help members recognize their purpose. Still, the church cannot solve the problem of mediocrity and exoticism simply by changing its corporate structure. The church needs to embrace its divine purpose, empower the divine purposes of its members, and begin to explore its understanding of the Biblical metaphors for the church as it involves its place on earth.

Additionally, other groups can seem exciting because of their mystery. Churches should not only teach its members the truth, but remove the mystery of other groups. The truth provides a necessary foundation for recognizing the false, but members need to be demystified about the false as well (with truth, not stereotype… stereotyping can actually increase the mystery). Again, however, removing the exotic quality of other groups does not remove the needs that people have… if the church is seen as mediocre and lacking purpose

One could sum things up and say that mediocrity of the church and the mystery

Biblical Maternal Images for God

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Mother’s Day makes me think about God’s maternal side. Christianity has been guilty of a patriarchal history that has been oppressive of women. Our conception of God as masculine, e.g. God as Father or King, certainly contributes to our slide into patriarchy. Although written in patriarchal contexts, the Bible itself does not refer to God exclusively in masculine metaphors. There are, albeit few, feminine metaphors used to describe God in the Bible.

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This article discusses the use of Feminine or Maternal images or metaphors for God. Many get uncomfortable with this. For me, I think we need to separate between metaphors that help us understand something about God, and the potential reification of such symbols. The "Goddess Worship" cults that are on the periphery of Christianity seems to be an unhealthy reification (considering symbols as "real"), thinking that God is "female." Of course the same can happen with masculine imagery of God. Recall the scene in the movie My Fair Lady, where a minister is trying to explain how God is "male." I use masculine terms for God, in line with the majority metaphors in the Bible, and in line with Jesus being incarnated as a male human. But it is reasonable to recognize that there are some limitations to such symbology. My question, of course, is whether there are times where feminine metaphors for God are useful in missional (cross-cultural) contexts? Not sure...
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