Mimicry: the ability an organism develops to imitate one or more traits from another organism (with which it’s unrelated) so that it can obtain some benefit. (https://allyouneedisbiology.wordpress.com/2015/10/25/animal-mimicry/)
Let me give an example: We have been a part of several churches in the Philippines. Most Philippine churches assign music ministry to the youth in the church— a massive mistake often. I remember at one church, they had a young lady who led music with a group of youth playing guitar and drums and keyboard. This group really liked Hillsong. Hillsong doesn’t do much for me, but music has never been part of my worship language anyway. The worship leader mimicked Hillsong videos— right down to the style of singing, and the gestures and jumps. She was mimicking the look, style, and movements of the lead singer of those Hillsong videos.
But why mimic? What benefit is there in doing it? In the Animal World, mimicry done for reasons of predation as well as for defense. But why do Christians do mimicry? Some reasons don’t line up directly with those for the Animal World. Mimicking the looks of a poisonous animal in hopes of not being eaten by predators, does not correspond fully with human culture— but there are parallelisms.
Passive Benefits for Mimicry
1. Avoid being targeted. This is where mimicry and camouflage overlap a bit. Let me give a story that typifies this:
Years ago I was working at a place that has “Christian Conferences.” One time I was acting as a server for a TD Jakes conference. When he got up to speak, he started out okay I suppose. However, about 15 or 20 minutes in he started leaving behind the main message and began complimenting the women in the front and center of the tent who were jumping up and down and acting all excited when Jakes spoke. He also began to deride those in the far corners who were just sitting there ‘doing nothing.’ I find that sort of pandering pretty despicable. It was clear manipulation. It made me wonder whether his claim that God had told him to minister to women was, cynically, actually an excuse to target a group that he felt he could manipulate more easily. The curious thing was that when I went to the corners of the tent I found out he was absolutely correct. Both back corners had around 20 or 30 women who were just sitting there. Some were even knitting. It made me wonder if they were actually asked or paid to do that. After all, people don’t like to be targeted by an abusive person. Most people want to fit into a crowd and be complimented for it.
Not everyone will do this of course. Years ago there was a tendency of some worship leaders to say things like, “Clap if you love Jesus!!” That would invariably make me put my hands in my pockets. Now it seems more common to say something like, “Let’s all give a clap offering to the Lord.” I will sometimes go along with that. The second is an invitation to join in an activity while the first tries shaming to control behavior. People will often mimic others in a group to avoid being targeted/shamed.
2. To demonstrate belongingness. Churches and denominations develop a certain DNA, a certain culture. One of the purposes of culture is to help define who are US and who are THEM. The pressure for belongingness can be strong. Churches can be like Junior High Lunch Hall. There are different tables and some who fit into the culture of that table are welcomed, and while others are encouraged to look elsewhere. Some want to be with the cool kids, or the jocks, or some other esteemed group, and they will mimic the table’s group behavior in hopes of being found to belong. Even non-conformist tables still pressure people to conform to their brand of non-conformity. Churches can be like that as well. I am reminded of a song by Grady Tolands. If you haven’t heard of him it is because he was a missionary to South America, who wrote songs mostly for fun. The chorus to one of his songs says,
“‘Cuz we love to be loved and we hate to be hated,
We like to be liked—- at least tolerated.
And everyone that I know feels that way too.
Yes, we love to be loved, and we hate to be hated,
We like to be liked— at least tolerated.
And that affects the things we say and do.”
In the next post, I will look at more agressive, or at least less passive forms of Christian mimicry.
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good day doc. I cannot find the exact song of Grady Toland in youtube do have any suggestion where I get or hear that song?
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Hey Dan, I don’t think you will find it online. Grady Toland was a missionary who liked to write Christian songs (usually humorous) that he would use for his church visits. The only song of his I have seen existing online in mp3 is “The MK Song.” Don’t think it is on youtube, but have found it in downloadable form.
As far as “We love to be loved,” it is a quirky song from the 80s that took a humorous jab at designer clothes. It is pretty out of date now. The following are the lyrics as best I can remember (the last line of verse one I cannot remember).
We Love to be Loved
Grady Tolan
(Blues/Jazz style except Verse 2)
Well we love to be loved and we hate to be hated,
We like to be liked…. at least tolerated
And everyone that I know feels that way too,
‘Cuz we love to be loved and we hate to be hated
We like to be liked…. at least tolerated
And that affects the things we say and do.
One day Moses was walkin’ down the street,
Eugene Egyptian he happened to meet,
He said, “Hey there Eugene, What’s that thing on your skirt.”
Eugene he said there, “Hey Moses, How’s it been…
This is it boy, This is in. At least that’s what I get from all of my friends.”
“You see there Moses, down on the Nile, We’re into worshiping crocodiles,
and everyone that I know feels that way too.”
Now here we are a few millenia later, and were all wearing little alligators,
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Cuz we love to be loved…..
Calvin Klein he’s a friend of mine… wherever I go he’s right behind,
And me and Gloria V, well we’re real close too.
And whenever I go out for a hikey, I always wear my pale blue Nikes,
and my Jordache sweatband to match my tennis shoes.
Oh there will come a day, when we all’l be borne away,
to meet the Great Designer in the air.
And all this stuff down here, will suddenly disappear.
We’ll find we did not need it anyway.
But we love to be loved….
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I was curious if you knew how to get ahold of Grady Tolands songs in .mp3 form. In the late 80’s our daughter had a teacher who was on deputation for ministry in South America with ABWE. She introduced us to Grady’s music. We can’t find the cassette tape we had and wouldn’t have anything to play it on if we did.
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Grady Tolands was a missionary in South America in the 1980s (ABWE) I think. He wasn’t a professional musician and so the cassette I had was a tape of a concert he did in Cedarville in the early 80s. My cassette may still exist in a box back in the US. The only online copy of a song of his I found was his most popular on… The MK Song. https://www.gregdonner.org/thoughts/The%20M.K.%20Song.mp3
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